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Some time has passed so here is another divination offering. If you have a question, I'll be happy to use geomancy or the tarot about it. That said, divination is like weather forecasting not a tablet of truth handed down from above, so take the advice I give you through the reading as such. The conditions that divination taps into are also in constant flux, the same as atmospheric pressure and the Moon.

Instructions Please leave a little bit of background about your situation or, if you practice magic, or are up for an experiment do the following. Take note of the time and place where you are and leave it in the comments. Take a moment to put both your mind and and your body into the present moment, feel your weight, your thoughts and your environment, become present. Perform your banishing ritual if you have one, if not, an opening prayer is enough. Before you imagine a door with a sacred sign for you and the time and place of your location inscribed in golden letters. In your imagination, stand up, walk and open the door. You have entered my private divining room, and yes, it has multiple rooms and this one is just for you. In the room there is a table with a red cloth and a deck of cards. Focus on your query or situation and shuffle the cards there. Leave the deck for me to pick up and you can go out the door, close it and return to your body. Close with another banishing or closing prayer or clap once loudly.

Any actions taken from the information of the readings are entirely the responsibility of the querent and do not replace nor pretend to be professional legal, medical or psychological counseling.

Please noteBe sure to ask questions to which you want to know the answer. Also, divination doesn't always tell you about things you already know about, actually, it almost never does! My suggestion is that you question yourself, especially on things that make you think or flinch if any, and consider the points mentioned from a stance of possibility not of confirmation bias or it's diametrical opposite, falsification bias.

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Thank you for your services.

It has recently become apparent to both me and my husband that I have a problem with alcohol. I've deeply hurt my husband by some of the things I have said when drunk and I have trouble not drinking too much once it gets started. So... my solution is to not start.

My question for your tarot is...what should I do to help repair the relationship with my husband? I can tell he is hurt and afraid that the shoe will drop again, so what I say to him isn't having much effect

Those things are hard and thank you for stopping by with such a matter, jdecandia. I will get to it shortly.

He does seem to be unsatisfied with the situation but, at least according to my cards, he doesn't seem to be emotionally hurt about the situation but rather unsatisfied and concerned about the behavior and your relationship with alcohol.

It does seem to me, that you are coming to alcohol for a reason that you need to uncover and my Tarot suggest, that in order for you to amend the situation with your husband regarding your alcohol problem is to, well, get yourself straight and decisive about what you are going to do about it so that he can have the confidence that you've seen and care about the situation in order to solve it, in a pragmatic kind of way. Basically, here is the problem, what are we doing about it? He needs to see that you are committed to the realization that its a problem that needs to get solved.

Weather this is accurate or not, while doing the reading a got a sense and just want to refine my skills so will ask. Did your father have a drinking problem by any chance?

If you wish, we can look at the drinking problem per se too.

Edited 2023-05-09 07:10 (UTC)

I read this when you posted it, and I have been finding that it is more and more true.

My mother declares a drinking problem, my father continues to drink but it does not seem to affect his relationships.

As far as lifestyle changes: absolute abstention. I have tried to drink moderately before and I still find that any amount of drinking induces personality changes that don't stand up to my moral code.

I am thankful for this forthright answer and I know that I have been forthright with a heavy topic. I find it is the best way to be lighten the load.

Thank you. I will continue to navigate forward.

Edited 2023-05-11 03:15 (UTC)

Hmm. Ok thanks for the feedback. My tarot seems to suggest a father figure involved in your drinking problem, so if it's helpful at all, consider in which ways your parents have affected your own drinking problem regardless of the consequences it might or might not bring to them.

As for forthright, I have to thank you for the confidence with such a topic and I'm truly grateful you've listen to what I have to say through the cards. My Tarot is very direct and frank, and I sometimes have trouble toning it down!

By the way, from my friends that have had a problem with alcohol, they report the same thing, a little doesn't work when it has created an addiction and they suggest to not say to yourself "I'm not drinking ever again" but rather "I'm not drinking today". That way is easier as a goal and doesn't invite temptation from the subconscious; as well as being easy on yourself through the process.

All the best for you and blessings for your family :-)

My father figure has for sure played a major emotional role in my life, even if not directly traceable. It's something I'll have to delve into.

Thank you for the advice. I'm finding that the one day at a time and looking at it as a drug, not drugs AND alcohol. I have to treat it like cocaine or heroin (two substances I've never taken but potentially life damaging). Its a drug, I'm suffering from a drug. This viewpoint affords me much more compassion to myself despite the societal view that it is normal and most people can handle it.

As far as thanking me for opening up, I think we ad a human community effect each other innumerably in ways that aren't always obvious, and I'm thankful I can connect with the work you do here.

Some substances are easier to get addicted to than others but, whichever way you got there, its the mechanisms of addiction that matter and those are equally hard on people, be it from alcohol o really intense drugs. So I think the position you are taking about it is the right way to approach it.

Thanks for stopping by!

I just wanted to follow up and tell you that so far so good. I have seen that it depends on the type of substance too...being a nurse who occasionally works night shift. I can say I'm certainly addicted to caffeine, but it doesn't seem to have the demon in it that ETOH has at least for me.

I can also say that with my new clarity of mind, I've not since been attracted to the thing nor do I find the "fun" that I'm missing all that fun. I'd much prefer to progress on the things that have taken more importance...playing my instrument, lifting, and cooking with my husband.

Before I tried to moderate, but now that I'm not using alcohol other than in a wine reduction sauce, it doesn't have the same threat over me. Its like when I married my husband who already has children and a vasectomy. The threat of pregnancy was thus removed (I love his children, but I don't want to become pregnant myself) and the threat around sex just melted away. With alcohol or with pregnancy, it seems that I do psychologically better once the "threat" is removed.

Regardless, I know this is the very beginning of my journey.

I want to thank you for hearing me throughout this process

I wanted to follow up on this and tell you that I have successfully given up the bottle since the last I spoke with you. With a combination of picking up my magical practice and therapy, I've come to the realization that a lot of my underlying desire is to run from undiagnosed Munchausen by proxy in my childhood. It's been a rather strange realization but I see I don't have to run from it or inadvertently live up to being sick like my mother envisioned for me.

You know it's interesting about the father figure because growing up. I find my husband's so healing because he's exact opposite of my father who is complete.Push over and let my mom miss diagnosed me and put me on a ton of I know very damaging medications. I now have a strong and psychologically healthy masculine energy in my life (my husband)that has a strong catylist on my healing journey.

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