Have you ever been told some unasked advice about yourself and then flinched from it, especially if it's accurate? Or perhaps even keep doing it just because someone was rude about it? I think consent bypasses the perceived threat of change and makes it slightly easier. Change, after all can feel like death, because we identify with that which we presently are. If you don't give it, it gets ripped out of you instead of being let go.
Of course also there the question of effectiveness, if they haven't given consent, you also have to override their will with yours and that takes a lot of work and makes the person less capable of dealing with their stuff, because you've made their will weaker (and then you have to deal with the blowback of that, which might make you gullible. I think that's part of why a lot of Christians are like that and need to be told what to do, and have to have a lot of rules for it).
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Have you ever been told some unasked advice about yourself and then flinched from it, especially if it's accurate? Or perhaps even keep doing it just because someone was rude about it? I think consent bypasses the perceived threat of change and makes it slightly easier. Change, after all can feel like death, because we identify with that which we presently are. If you don't give it, it gets ripped out of you instead of being let go.
Of course also there the question of effectiveness, if they haven't given consent, you also have to override their will with yours and that takes a lot of work and makes the person less capable of dealing with their stuff, because you've made their will weaker (and then you have to deal with the blowback of that, which might make you gullible. I think that's part of why a lot of Christians are like that and need to be told what to do, and have to have a lot of rules for it).