I read this when you posted it, and I have been finding that it is more and more true.

My mother declares a drinking problem, my father continues to drink but it does not seem to affect his relationships.

As far as lifestyle changes: absolute abstention. I have tried to drink moderately before and I still find that any amount of drinking induces personality changes that don't stand up to my moral code.

I am thankful for this forthright answer and I know that I have been forthright with a heavy topic. I find it is the best way to be lighten the load.

Thank you. I will continue to navigate forward.